The Power of Saying Thank You

Reminding ourselves to feel grateful can improve our hapiness and health. Most of us don’t take a conscious effort to catalogue our blessings, I think that a big mistake.
Gratitude is a virtue and an emotion, a knowing awarness that we are the recepients of godness. It is distinctive.and discernible from other postive states. In fact, i would say it is the forgotten factor in happiness.

Grateful people report consistently higher levels of positive emotions, life, satisfaction, vitality and optimism and lower levels of depression and stress. A friend mentioned yesterday that when we practice grateful thinking we can actually reduce our stress levels and take control of our hapiness levels. Overall, the biggest predictor of our happiness is the quality of our relationships and gratitude is a relationship strengthening emotion. Grateful people are less focused on the internal, and more on the interpersonal. They define success less in terms of materialism and more by the quality of their relationships.

Gratitude means recognising the contribution of others.

How to become more grateful ? Well i think we need to keep a gratitude journal, meaning establish a daily practice in which you remind yourself of the gifts, grace, benefits and good things you enjoy. Setting aside time on a daily basis to recall moments of gratitude associated with ordinary events, your personal attributes or valued people in your life gives you the potential for a sustainable life theme of gratitude. Going through the motions of gratitude should triggered emotions, the motions inculde smiling, saying thank you and writting letters of gratitude. Writting is good. I love it !

Also I would say to think outside the box, by thinking outside the box you will create opportunities to express your gratitude, you must creatively look for new situations and circumstances in which you feel grateful. For example, if you are a woman, the freedom to have an education, earn your own money and choose who you have a relationship with is something half of the women in the world don’t have and you do. Being grateful humbles us and demands own own sense of self-sufficiency.

Until next time…

Have you done it yet?……

At these difficult economic circumstances, we do a lot of thinking about our dreams and wishes, but actually making a move towards the thing we want is something else. We buy the books, write the lists, talk to people about it and always find a reason not to begin the task itself.

I have been talking to many people lately about my Reinvention workshops programs in Britain, my American friends get it, marketing a personal development or change process workshop is easy there. People are keen to make some changes, make adjustment and invest in their lives in the US, the American dreams is still in their Brains. They all want to make it happen! And I was reading Sir Richard Brandson Biography, what sticks out most is how he reinvented himself several times, from being quiet, inarticulate, shy to one of the richest Man in Britain with his famous brand Virgin!

I also read the biography of Hugh Helner, he also reinvented himself from being unsociable, reserved and detached (both from high school and later professionally) to “Mr Playboy” and one of the first magazine editors to use celebrities to help expand its brand and gain visibility. In high school, Hugh Hefner went from being awkward and unpopular to, in his own words, “the imaginary adolescent, the teenager I wanted to be”:

I experienced reinvention myself too believe it or not, I went from being timid, shy, reserved person to being confident, energized and passionate, mainly created a purpose for my life and Britain has played a major role into it, I learnt the culture, the mentality and the system. Furthermore I learnt to monitor my thoughts and use self observation as a tool to success.

It takes a great courage and determination to look and turn our thoughts into goals and our goals into action. However you make your resolution, it’s important to have faith in a positive outcome, make sure your goal is big enough to inspire you and challenge you and finally create a vision board that captures the essence of what you want to achieve.

Right now, it may be more important than ever to reinvent yourself. What do you need to become? How do you see your Future?

Wanting to make a fresh start, but don’t know how? Join me on the 2nd of July!

Best Wishes

Is your Business going Up In smoke?

Have your Toast Burnt?

When something is not working, or burnt try again! Try again one more time and another time maybe, depending on how long you have!

If you come to the conclusion that something isn’t working and you know it will not, start from fresh. Reset the button and find a new way of doing it, a new solid strategy, and a pen and note book in hand. Just like in Business, if you aren’t sure that you have a business or figure out that your business is not sustainable, don’t lie to yourself, it is ok to fail and start again. You will be more respected and credible. We all make mistakes… I have not been in business for 30 years, but have gained experience in fails and come backs. I am only 34 years, and I have done a lot in a very little time.

There is no point in being in the denial and playing the arrogant or the connoisseurs. There is no point in lying to people around you, one day they will find out that you are full of …. And what you do is to piss them off and end up lonely. You can only be in the denial for a certain time, after that you done! Cooked! Grilled!

I have friends whom have been in business for years; they have fails and collected themselves again. A business man or woman can only survive if their creations are sustainable. The market is tough and geniuses are waking up, emotions are what driving people into your business, you have to deal with them in a very professional way, increase communication, be fair, delegate, take action and avoid coward attitudes, if you can’t deal with it , please seek help from your peers and mentors.

Tell them that you have failed and they will help you, be honest with yourself. Take a time off and deal with your egos instead of putting your head under the water for long.
Social sites that waste your times and energy, avoid it, your time is precious, go and find a job in the third sectors or call me for a chat, i might be able to assist. Take a time to retrain yourself and your brain, gain a new knowledge. You will do yourself a big favour.

It is time to hit the reset button, defrag the hard drive in the brain, rebuild the emotional and intellectual operating systems. Don’t you think?

Mariéme Jamme