The Power of Saying Thank You

Reminding ourselves to feel grateful can improve our hapiness and health. Most of us don’t take a conscious effort to catalogue our blessings, I think that a big mistake.
Gratitude is a virtue and an emotion, a knowing awarness that we are the recepients of godness. It is distinctive.and discernible from other postive states. In fact, i would say it is the forgotten factor in happiness.

Grateful people report consistently higher levels of positive emotions, life, satisfaction, vitality and optimism and lower levels of depression and stress. A friend mentioned yesterday that when we practice grateful thinking we can actually reduce our stress levels and take control of our hapiness levels. Overall, the biggest predictor of our happiness is the quality of our relationships and gratitude is a relationship strengthening emotion. Grateful people are less focused on the internal, and more on the interpersonal. They define success less in terms of materialism and more by the quality of their relationships.

Gratitude means recognising the contribution of others.

How to become more grateful ? Well i think we need to keep a gratitude journal, meaning establish a daily practice in which you remind yourself of the gifts, grace, benefits and good things you enjoy. Setting aside time on a daily basis to recall moments of gratitude associated with ordinary events, your personal attributes or valued people in your life gives you the potential for a sustainable life theme of gratitude. Going through the motions of gratitude should triggered emotions, the motions inculde smiling, saying thank you and writting letters of gratitude. Writting is good. I love it !

Also I would say to think outside the box, by thinking outside the box you will create opportunities to express your gratitude, you must creatively look for new situations and circumstances in which you feel grateful. For example, if you are a woman, the freedom to have an education, earn your own money and choose who you have a relationship with is something half of the women in the world don’t have and you do. Being grateful humbles us and demands own own sense of self-sufficiency.

Until next time…

Loneliness in a relationship….

By the time we feel that butterfly in our tummy, start eating chocolate, gone all shy or silent, look into each other eyes, touch hands, feel the sensuality in our hands, the heat in our bodies, looking at the same direction, kissing and cuddling, we know that Love is in the air!

We then start missing each other and can’t live by ourselves anymore; we need a constant presence from the one we love.

We then make adult decisions in getting married in front of God and our families.

The vows that we said that day should and must remain with us for the rest of our lives. They are precious.

As life carry on, we face the day to day reality of our lives, but as we said on the day we committed ourselves, we will be together no matter what happen. We will love and cherish one another all the time, in good and bad times.

Time then pass by, pressure of society builds up, insecurity, internal and personal feelings starting to develop, we close ourselves down to the one only we loved. No understanding, bad consequences, and hurt feelings.Things change and we feel that we are getting old and lonely inside.

Loneliness is a relation is a very common thing, men and women get lonely in their relationship sometimes when commonality is reduced, activities declined, attention diverted, misunderstanding occured.

We cannot blame society for being the main cause of that, I think we need to think again about the meaning of vowels that make us Husband and Wife, we need to communicate, share and forgive.
We need to let go and give some love. We can live very simple lives and be happy the rest of our lives. We can try to open our hearts and listen to our thoughts. Going for a walk is an excellent remedy; take the one you love with you, kiss them on the way back- You will see the difference.

Have a good Sunday!

Recipe to avoid cheating and deceptions

Here are some lessons to help you keep ahead of the game!

Lessons1- Never go to be angry with your man or woman
Lesson 2- Never argue in front of the kids, try to remain calm
Lesson 3- Never wear dirty clothes when welcoming your man or woman
Lesson 4- Always give him a kiss or a hug when you see them, show affection
Lesson 5- Never talk about your girlfriends in front of your man
Lesson 6- If you want to have a quality time with your husband or wife, make an effort.
Lesson 7- A TV in the bedroom will kill the sex life.
Lesson 8- When shopping over the week end; make sure you pass by Ann summers for a little treat.
Lesson 9- Remember Love is the seed you plant in your relationship, if you water it will grow, if not it will die
Lesson 10- Make sure your separate work and family life, avoid talking about if you can. Switch off Blackberry or office phones when home.
Lesson 11- Try to go out once a week, no need to have money in order to go out, you can go out hands by hands for walk.
Lesson 12- Trust you partner in making decisions, if you trust him he will be open to tell you what is going on. An error or mistake can be rectified, no need to dramatize.
Lesson 13- Do not close him/her down with accusation and assumptions
Lesson 14- He is not your dad, he is your husband, he needs respect, consideration just as you do.
Lesson 15- Make Love, Make Love, Get closer, Have Fun
Lesson 16- Congratulate your man or your woman
Lesson 17- Always tell them how much you love them, and you are a team
Lesson -18- Give each other space
Lesson 19- Learn to cook, cooking is relaxing and can get you closer in the kitchen
Lesson 20- Put some spices in the relationship, by creating surprise dinner, week end breaks, cinema à deux, galleries break, theatre etc….
Lesson 21- Have Fun, Be Happy.
Lesson 22- Life is not about money and materials, life is about TIME and YOU.
Lesson 23: Make sure you travel or learn other countries cultures.
Lesson 23- Forgiveness is a healing; never delay it, do it quickly.
Lesson 23- Remember a woman can be a traditional and a modern one.

La vie est belle!

Mariéme